I’m going to talk to you today about what I call a corrective marriage vow, what a marriage vow should be because clearly what it tends to be is not working, not when the divorce rate is well over 50%, probably 70% at this point. So what I mean by corrective is this: rather than…
For many years, one of my areas of specialty has been anxiety disorders. I have spent over two decades educating clients and students alike on the ins and outs of the signals and triggers of anxiety. I’ve found that through education and practical explanation, many of the common daily symptoms of generalized anxiety subside by demystifying the mischievous miscreant of the mind.
Is there such a thing as a divorce being a success? Well there really is and I don’t mean who ends up with more bang for their buck in court or who walks away with less custody arrangement. I’m talking about a mature completion of a relationship.
With the disheartening statistics of divorce in mind, I took it upon myself to find out what men and women really look for as essential qualities for true lasting connection... The results are as old fashioned as apple pie!
What do I want? Where can I find it?
It’s one of the more common presenting issues that many of my clients face today. Him… or Her.
Even if you’re in a blissful relationship. There’s still that nagging question of “What really makes me (us) happy?”
What I’ve found for many of us is that we’re just too busy to slow down and connect.
Over the decades, my idea of friendship has chopped and changed… A friend is someone who tells you the truth; a man who treats you like a man; a woman who reflects your feminine side; a mother who nurtures your ‘inner child’; a child who brings out your vulnerability; someone who’s always ‘got your back’; a friend in need and, of course, ‘friends with benefits!’ (That never ends well!)
For me, friend-ship is a vessel on which we can sail the high seas and safely journey to land’s end.
The “battle of the sexes” would appear to be alive and thriving in our homes, businesses and communities. I use the term battle loosely as I believe there to be a big misconception about the function and purpose of conflict between men and women.
We are too busy trying to control the things we have no business controlling and relinquishing control where we have absolute domination.
As an admitted control freak myself, I feel fully qualified to expound on the trials and tribulations of life’s greatest paradox…
The more controlling we are, the less we trust and feel at peace!
Ever feel like a damsel in distress lying in wait for your knight only for him to be too busy shining his armor? Have I got some tips for all of you choosing unavailable men…
It must be the most consistent trait I see in virtually every woman I have counseled; choosing Sir Lacks-a-lot!
Were you one of those kids who had to ask to be excused at the dinner table? I bet you’re still looking for permission to be happy, make more money, please your boss and speak your truth. Do yourself a favor… excuse yourself! It’s tough living in our heads. Self-validation feels so corny and unsatisfying…