It’s tough living in our heads.
I see so many people seeking approval from people they barely respect or don’t even admire.
What do I want? Where can I find it?
It’s one of the more common presenting issues that many of my clients face today. Him… or Her.
Even if you’re in a blissful relationship. There’s still that nagging question of “What really makes me (us) happy?”
What I’ve found for many of us is that we’re just too busy to slow down and connect.
Over the decades, my idea of friendship has chopped and changed… A friend is someone who tells you the truth; a man who treats you like a man; a woman who reflects your feminine side; a mother who nurtures your ‘inner child’; a child who brings out your vulnerability; someone who’s always ‘got your back’; a friend in need and, of course, ‘friends with benefits!’ (That never ends well!)
For me, friend-ship is a vessel on which we can sail the high seas and safely journey to land’s end.
Wishing your good mood would last forever is a bit like keeping your favorite haircut at the ‘ideal length’ without it ever growing out!
You see our moods are designed to change constantly, just as hunger is sure to return following the most satisfying meal. It’s just a matter of time, and the challenge is how you handle it.
Why are we subject to such fluidity of emotions?
Beware your inner Saboteur: he’s that little bugger who will pull your own rug out, just as you take your final step of the victory lap.
It doesn’t make sense, right? The stunning Super Model who has the world in the palm of her hand while she destroys herself with bulimia and a string of abusive boyfriends. The entrepreneur who throws away millions in a reckless wager in Vegas.
How about the recovering alcoholic with 20 years sobriety under his belt who relapses at his 20 year high school reunion?