I’m going to talk to you today about what I call a corrective marriage vow, what a marriage vow should be because clearly what it tends to be is not working, not when the divorce rate is well over 50%, probably 70% at this point. So what I mean by corrective is this: rather than…
For many years, one of my areas of specialty has been anxiety disorders. I have spent over two decades educating clients and students alike on the ins and outs of the signals and triggers of anxiety. I’ve found that through education and practical explanation, many of the common daily symptoms of generalized anxiety subside by demystifying the mischievous miscreant of the mind.
Is there such a thing as a divorce being a success? Well there really is and I don’t mean who ends up with more bang for their buck in court or who walks away with less custody arrangement. I’m talking about a mature completion of a relationship.
Reinvention is creating something new. So new that you wouldn’t recognize it from before. I believe at some point in our lives, we all need to reinvent ourselves. But what does it take? In this Behind The Couch session, I give my 3 Keys to Reinvention.
With the disheartening statistics of divorce in mind, I took it upon myself to find out what men and women really look for as essential qualities for true lasting connection... The results are as old fashioned as apple pie!
It’s tough living in our heads.
I see so many people seeking approval from people they barely respect or don’t even admire.
What on earth is motivating them?
What do I want? Where can I find it?
It’s one of the more common presenting issues that many of my clients face today. Him… or Her.
Even if you’re in a blissful relationship. There’s still that nagging question of “What really makes me (us) happy?”
What I’ve found for many of us is that we’re just too busy to slow down and connect.
Over the decades, my idea of friendship has chopped and changed… A friend is someone who tells you the truth; a man who treats you like a man; a woman who reflects your feminine side; a mother who nurtures your ‘inner child’; a child who brings out your vulnerability; someone who’s always ‘got your back’; a friend in need and, of course, ‘friends with benefits!’ (That never ends well!)
For me, friend-ship is a vessel on which we can sail the high seas and safely journey to land’s end.
Wishing your good mood would last forever is a bit like keeping your favorite haircut at the ‘ideal length’ without it ever growing out!
You see our moods are designed to change constantly, just as hunger is sure to return following the most satisfying meal. It’s just a matter of time, and the challenge is how you handle it.
Why are we subject to such fluidity of emotions?
Beware your inner Saboteur: he’s that little bugger who will pull your own rug out, just as you take your final step of the victory lap.
It doesn’t make sense, right? The stunning Super Model who has the world in the palm of her hand while she destroys herself with bulimia and a string of abusive boyfriends. The entrepreneur who throws away millions in a reckless wager in Vegas.
How about the recovering alcoholic with 20 years sobriety under his belt who relapses at his 20 year high school reunion?